Feelings Change

The other week I had a few days where I was feeling like things weren’t going great with my husband. I couldn’t put my finger on it, but I was just feeling unhappy. I thought perhaps he was in a funk or taking his stress out on me, or something.

Anyway, a few days passed and I started feeling better about our relationship. I started smiling at him again, and doing things just to make him happy and enjoying being around him.


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This picture was taken back when we were dating – I love it 🙂


As I reflected on the change in my feelings, trying to figure out the reason, I realised that nothing about my husband or his behaviour had really changed. He hadn’t been treating me poorly then, and he hadn’t dramatically upped his kindness to me or anything.

I realised the only thing that had changed were my feelings. Not the situation.

Only a few days prior, I had been framing my entire concept of reality around my feelings. I felt like something was wrong between us, so I assumed there was.

Jeremiah 17:9 says:

The heart is deceitful above all things
    and beyond cure.
    Who can understand it?

If our hearts are deceitful, that means we can’t trust what they are telling us.

I think it’s useful to recognise our feelings, to acknowledge them and see what they may be pointing to. At the moment, I think most of my feeling changes (or mood swings?) are more related to post-natal hormones and tiredness than they are to my external circumstances.

So I can’t trust that what my heart tells me – what I feel – is the objective truth.

Two things I need to remember:

  • God’s word, understood through His Spirit, is the only source of objective truth. I can turn to the Lord to find the rock for my feet when I feel like I’m drowning in a sea of emotions. “All other ground is sinking sand…” as the hymn goes.
  • I can still treat my husband (and my kids, and anyone else…) well regardless of how I’m feeling about them at any given time. I don’t have to be a slave to my feelings, going to and fro as they dictate.


Lastly, I’ve been really enjoying this song lately – The Well, by JJ Heller.

In particular, the second verse really resonates with me:

I followed my heart

But it led me astray

I should not have gone

But I went anyway

Now I find myself here

All battered and bruised

I was chasing the wind

I should have been chasing you

Hope you enjoy the song! (Plus, the video is really cute 🙂 )


6 thoughts on “Feelings Change

  1. it was such a cute video, I had trouble paying attention to the words, good thing they were simple!
    hormones, emotions…such inconsistent things. Good post!

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  2. love.


    yes … our female hormones and emotions are often so erratic. it takes great wisdom to recognize them for what they are and then to choose the truth. you are a beautiful women 🙂

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